September 30, 2015
Motivation: the reason or reasons one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.
That’s the definition of the word. Now really examine that. The reason one has for acting or behaving in a particular way.
Do you know how many people tell me “I just wish I could get motivated!” or “I just can’t get motivated to workout!”. I get it. I was there in 2008 at the age of 33. I found motivation a fleeing idea that often eluded me as well. So now I want you to re-examine the word and change the definition.
Motivation: A by-product of action. The feeling you get to keep going once you start something you know you should do.
There’s your new definition of motivation. As the author John Maxwell says, “The only difference between a rut and a grave….is the length.” It’s true. Life happens and we find ourselves in ruts. Ruts in our marriage, ruts in our fitness, ruts in our nutrition and ruts in our finances. What most people don’t realize is they’re all connected. You get in a rut in one area of your life and it’s like cancer, it spreads and before you know it takes over all the other areas as well. Again, I’ll remind you, go listen to the podcast Shaun and I did about what my life was like at 255lbs. I remember well what that daily existence was like. So when people say to us, “I can’t get motivated to ______”. I say to them, that if you wait til motivation comes, you’ll be waiting til the day you die.
Motivation comes when you take that first step. You go for that walk. You say no to dessert. You put the $50 in savings. You send your spouse a vase of flowers for no reason. It puts you on the road to consistency. Consistency is another word that is often misunderstood in our world. People link motivation to action, then action to consistency. “I start, but I can’t finish” or “I just can’t stay consistent with what I eat”. I’m going to let you in on a little secret. You are consistent….EVERYDAY. You’re just consistent at the wrong things. We are consistently: eating too much, not working out, taking our family and spouse for granted, spending more money than we should, etc.
I get it! If you think I have it all figured out, think again. I’ll spend money with the best of them. I have the exercise and diet thing down, I do ok with not taking Alisha for granted, but I struggle too. So as I write this, know I’m with you, just probably in different areas or maybe the same.
So What Do We Do?
First off, we make a decision to act. As I was producing Shaun’s Podcast “Trust and Believe” this week, he had a really good quote when it came to motivation “Attempting something equals automatic SUCCESS.”
I’d write that down and plaster it all over your house, places where you need to see it: the fridge, the bathroom mirror, your car dash, everywhere. It’s true! As soon as you start, you have already succeeded. Then once you start, you begin to succeed, you start to feel better…guess what happens? Motivation. That my friends is when the motivation you’ve been waiting on appears. You now have that power to want to continue. Now is it always easy? NO. Will you need support and guidance? YES. That’s why whatever it is you’re about to tackle, find support. If it’s fitness and nutrition, let us help you. If it’s your marriage, go to counseling. If it is finances, find someone to help you plan or use your spouse as a partner and have a goal and dream you both share for the outcome.
Motivation exists, but it requires you to make the decision to act. Life is too short, don’t waste another day waiting to act, make the decision and start today. I believe in you and Alisha and I both are here for you in any way we can be.
September 9, 2015
For those of you who don’t know, before Alisha and I started NC Fit Club, I was in radio (and still do freelance work) as a producer. I’m the guy who produces commercials, radio station imaging, etc so when Shaun asked me if I wanted to produce his podcast, I was honored. It was a win/win for both of us, he’s my friend who’s great at motivating, I love producing (not as much as I love coaching) so it was a perfect fit.
Shaun just re-branded his podcast from “Define Your Life” to “Trust and Believe” and as I was producing the first episode I was really moved by his topic. It made me start thinking of friends in my life and people who we work with as he explained what he means by “Trust and Believe”. The short answer, because I want you to go listen to it, is this: You have to trust in yourself through consistency and time to build the belief that you need to know “I can do this!”
That’s the part of coaching people that kills me. Do you know how many people come up to Shaun and say “OMG, I tried your workout and after a week I was like, I can’t do this!”. Shaun of course challenges them in that belief, but it was a conversation that he talks about in this particular podcast where he had an “a-ha” moment with this girl he was playing tennis with that also shined some light on this issue for me. I now realize that people need to Trust and Believe in themselves and really work on the mental aspect of that in order to succeed and make it a lifestyle change. My skin crawls when my friend Jason says, “I’m starting my diet tomorrow.”, do you know how many times I’ve heard him say that? As his friend I want to shake him, because he has to want it, he as to see it for what it is. It’s NOT a diet, diets are temporary. It’s a LIFESTYLE change in which the word diet goes from something short term, to something that describes your daily eating habits in the sense of your lifestyle, meaning long-term.
So now I have a podcast to send to my friend and to you, if you fall into this category. After you listen to it, if you’re ready to make a LIFESTYLE change and we can have a real conversation on what that looks like for you, we would love the opportunity to help you get from where you are today, to where you want to be for the rest of your life. Contact us today and let’s get you started. Enjoy the podcast!